You know, I think a lot more guys would respond positively to sexism if it were phrased “do you think men and women are equal and should share all the same rights and /responsibilities/ “
I’ve tested it out and get an affirmative response from pretty much every dude I’ve asked, then informing them “congratulations, you’re a feminist”
Not sure if it’s a good thing, considering you have to include that there are, in fact, burdens and obligations that come with being considered a full person before they are willing to get on board with supporting it
But at the same, it might be good to make sure people don’t have the wrong impression that we’re asking for handouts here
If that is ever in doubt, at least there’s a quick and reasonable way to explain it, though
Today, “feminism” is a buzzword (in no small part thanks to the patriarchy). There’s this stereotypical perception as to what feminism is. I think people often stop listening once they hear that you are a “feminist” because in their mind, they already know what you are. Entitled. A misandrist. The PC police. These people don’t understand what feminism is and don’t care to understand.
You can really see it today in the so-called MRA movement. Most of their “grievances” about the “double standards” are results of the patriarchy. Why are men “supposed” to foot the bill? Because women aren’t supposed to have jobs and support themselves. Why is domestic violence/rape/etc. against men not looked at as a serious problem? Because society teaches us that women have no power, so there’s no way they could do that to men. Why do men need to be “macho” and “masculine? Because anything associated with stereotypical “femininity” is “weak”.
But good luck getting these people to see that. All they see is that all the “responsibility” has been “forced” on them. Well, that’s because sexism tells us women are useless and can’t be trusted with “responsibility”! If feminism had its way, we would all just be “people” and you’d think it would be obvious that we would have the same responsibilities.
I guess I digressed a lot, but yes I think getting them to see that feminism isn’t begging for hand-outs is a good way forward. I just think that the problem is getting them to believe that. Just explaining it won’t be enough for people that don’t want to understand.
An old housemate of mine always just pointed to the radicals and claimed they were mainstream and would not be persuaded otherwise. That, and spew off ridiculous “facts” like “80% of rape reports are false” or “feminism has pervaded the legal system, so women can just marry a man, divorce him, and take all his money”. How do you convince someone who “argues” like that?
The buzzword nature of feminism is an issue too, in my opinion. If you know decent enough people that are just uneducated, this is a good approach. But how often do you see that people say they agree with the principles of feminism, and then say they’re still uncomfortable with identifying as a feminist?
I’m no scholar on the topic, and honestly I have no answers. I’m not even really sure where I should be speaking out, as a male (if this isn’t it, I’m sorry). It’s not the duty of the oppressed to educate the oppressors, and the oppressors don’t want to listen most of the time anyway. But how can you bring about change without trying? Hell, how can you bring about change even with trying?
tl;dr That is a reasonable way to explain it, but unfortunately most anti-feminists aren’t reasonable.